More Rambles...Should We Swing?
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SHOULD WE SWING? questions to ask yourselves
~ Have you discussed your most intimate fantasies with
your partner?
~ Have you got a strong and honest relationship?
~ Are you committed to your relationship?
~ Is your sex life with your partner great?
~ Do you feel comfortable at the thought of seeing your
partner kissing/touching/having sex with another
person(s)?
~ Are you confident & open when talking about sex?
~ Have you watched and enjoyed a porn video together?
~ Do you trust yourself & your partner?
~ Do you feel comfortable saying no?
~ Does the "idea" of swinging arouse you both?
~ Have you both considered the sexual health
implications?
~ Are you both happy to stop without hesitation if the
other wants to?
If you answered yes to ALL of these questions, then by
all means,its time to explore the lifestyle !
If you answered NO to ANY of these questions...I can
only "suggest" that you communicate openly and
honestly about these feelings with your partner before
you "dive in" to any uncomfortable situations...Open
Communication can open doors that were once closed,
so what might be a NO today....could be an "OOH
YEEEEESSS" later...The Elmira Meet & Greet is a great
...No Pressure atmosphere... to begin the journey & start
communicating!
Due to the risks of jealousy, swingers most often
prefer the lifestyle be something to be used as an
enhancement to an already-stable relationship.
In the words of one in the lifestyle:
..."if the marriage is in need of repair, I wouldn't
suggest this is the time to explore swinging..."
USELESSLY INTERESTING OPINIONS
Scientific research into swinging has been conducted in
the USA since the late 1960s. It has consistently found
that swingers have better pair-bonds than monogamous
couples. The most recent and most thorough study,
based on an internet questionare addressed to visitors
of lifestyle-related sites, found swingers are happier
in their relationships than the norm...
~ 60% of swingers said that swinging improved their
relationship.
~ 1.7% said it made their relationship less happy.
~ Half of those who rated their relationship very happy
before becoming swingers maintained it had become
even happier.
~ 90% of those with less happy relationships said
swinging improved them.
~ Almost 70% of swingers claimed no problem with
controlling jealousy.
~ Around a quarter admitted "I have difficulty
controlling jealousy when swinging" to be somewhat
true but only 6% said this was "Yes, Very Much" true.
~ Swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32%
very happy) and their lives much more exciting (76%
against 54% exciting) than does the rest of the
population, by surprisingly large margins.
~ There was no difference between the responses of
men and women...although
~ More males (70%) than females completed the survey.
INTENDED READING: I haven't read this book...Yet... It's
an interesting opinion either way
~ According to Terry Gould's The Lifestyle: A Look at
the Erotic Rites of Swingers (ISBN 1552094820),
swinging began among U.S. Air Force pilots and their
wives during World War II...
Reference:Bergstrand & Williams, Today's Alternative
Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers, Electronic
Journal of Human Sexuality, Vol.3, 10 October 2000.
Reference: WIKIPEDIA ~ Free Online Encyclopedia
~ Have you discussed your most intimate fantasies with
your partner?
~ Have you got a strong and honest relationship?
~ Are you committed to your relationship?
~ Is your sex life with your partner great?
~ Do you feel comfortable at the thought of seeing your
partner kissing/touching/having sex with another
person(s)?
~ Are you confident & open when talking about sex?
~ Have you watched and enjoyed a porn video together?
~ Do you trust yourself & your partner?
~ Do you feel comfortable saying no?
~ Does the "idea" of swinging arouse you both?
~ Have you both considered the sexual health
implications?
~ Are you both happy to stop without hesitation if the
other wants to?
If you answered yes to ALL of these questions, then by
all means,its time to explore the lifestyle !
If you answered NO to ANY of these questions...I can
only "suggest" that you communicate openly and
honestly about these feelings with your partner before
you "dive in" to any uncomfortable situations...Open
Communication can open doors that were once closed,
so what might be a NO today....could be an "OOH
YEEEEESSS" later...The Elmira Meet & Greet is a great
...No Pressure atmosphere... to begin the journey & start
communicating!
Due to the risks of jealousy, swingers most often
prefer the lifestyle be something to be used as an
enhancement to an already-stable relationship.
In the words of one in the lifestyle:
..."if the marriage is in need of repair, I wouldn't
suggest this is the time to explore swinging..."
USELESSLY INTERESTING OPINIONS
Scientific research into swinging has been conducted in
the USA since the late 1960s. It has consistently found
that swingers have better pair-bonds than monogamous
couples. The most recent and most thorough study,
based on an internet questionare addressed to visitors
of lifestyle-related sites, found swingers are happier
in their relationships than the norm...
~ 60% of swingers said that swinging improved their
relationship.
~ 1.7% said it made their relationship less happy.
~ Half of those who rated their relationship very happy
before becoming swingers maintained it had become
even happier.
~ 90% of those with less happy relationships said
swinging improved them.
~ Almost 70% of swingers claimed no problem with
controlling jealousy.
~ Around a quarter admitted "I have difficulty
controlling jealousy when swinging" to be somewhat
true but only 6% said this was "Yes, Very Much" true.
~ Swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32%
very happy) and their lives much more exciting (76%
against 54% exciting) than does the rest of the
population, by surprisingly large margins.
~ There was no difference between the responses of
men and women...although
~ More males (70%) than females completed the survey.
INTENDED READING: I haven't read this book...Yet... It's
an interesting opinion either way
~ According to Terry Gould's The Lifestyle: A Look at
the Erotic Rites of Swingers (ISBN 1552094820),
swinging began among U.S. Air Force pilots and their
wives during World War II...
Reference:Bergstrand & Williams, Today's Alternative
Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers, Electronic
Journal of Human Sexuality, Vol.3, 10 October 2000.
Reference: WIKIPEDIA ~ Free Online Encyclopedia
